This trend continues over the summer season, with heightened interest in love and dating over the Christmas and New Year break, Australia Day and towards the end of the Australian Open, with an average Dating Index increase of 27%, from 41 to 52.
Since writing it, it’s generated a staggering amount of thank you emails, and no less than 20 people notified me that it inspired them to end their relationships (or even in a few cases, their marriages). Sweet.) But the article also elicited a lot of questions like, “So if these habits ruin a relationship, what habits create a happy and healthy relationship? I didn’t want to just make it a (yet another) “learn to communicate and cuddle and watch sunsets and play with puppies together” type post. These are normal, everyday relationship issues that don’t get talked about because it’s far easier to talk about puppies and sunsets instead. This article explains how traits that don’t fit our traditional narrative for what love is and what love should be are actually necessary ingredients for lasting relationship success. Gottman devised the process of “thin-slicing” relationships, a technique where he hooks couples up to all sorts of biometric devices and then records them having short conversations about their problems.
She dated one of them on the down low for two years because she was embarrassed by how he behaved in public.
The most recent man served a 16-year prison sentence for being involved in a murder.
His method went on to be featured in Malcolm Gladwell’s bestselling book .
Gottman’s seminars also report a 50% higher success rate of saving troubled marriages than traditional marriage counseling.